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Brick Walls Are There For A Reason…

My sister Abby recently suprised both Kate (my other sister) and myself with a spontaneous gift while out for some drinks.  She said she had to go to the bathroom and after sometime arrived holding a bag from Borders and within it contained 2 copies of “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch, who recently died of pancreatic cancer.  The book was his last attempt at reflecting upon the world his wisdom, with every intention of stimulating the drive within each of us to LIVE LIFE…..Carpe Diem…Sieze the Day….Every culture has it’s own expression but the underlying principle transends all being.  Abby said that Randy reminded her of me in this way.  His love for life.  His true understanding of it’s brevity.  His passion to make the most of his time here.  She was never more right. 

Although I’ve never lost someone truly close to heart, I have seen some of my fellow bretheren pass on.  My son is named after his uncle, Sevan Demirtas who also passed away of Pancreatic cancer, like Randy.   He and I were never close but i had all the respect for him.   He was also very loved and appreciated by his own family and close circle of friends.   He had character and a passion of life, something I admire dearly.  Perhaps he and I would have become good friends over time, I’d like to hope our passion for life would have forged a strong friendship over time.  It was therefore almost instinctual, for both my wife and I to decide that our first born son would carry on his name and so on October 28th, 2007 Sevan Keohan was born into this world.  My love for him is undescribeable and I’ve never been more passionate about anything else in all my existence.   Nothing has given me more fortitude and passion to continue my quest for a full life then to set a living example for my son.

Now, regarding “Brick Walls” Randy said the following in his book

” The brick walls are there for a reason.  There’re not there to keep us out.  The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something”  

This also reminds me of my most favorite quote…

“He who has a why…will make do with almost any how”

I’ve always truly believed in both these ideals.  The feeling of true accomplishment comes from overcoming adversity, persevering the impossible and not allowing obstacles of any kind to deter one from achieving thier heartfelt goals.  If it were easy then everyone would do it.  The act of accomplishing something of both great desire and challenge empowers us.  With each accomplishment it becomes more evident that all things are possible and every brick wall just another means to an end.  For example, I once passed a Kempo Karate belt by throwing up during the 2 hour test only to stand back in line and declare my readiness to continue.  I had made the decision to continue and that was enough.  I overcame the immediate obstacle.  I passed the test and earned the respect from my instructor, who happens to be a dear friend of mine for sometime now,  and he also had a similiar experience of his own. m   I hope to pass onto Sevan this passion to overcome such obstacles that life may put in our way.    I want him to learn from my example…not words.   I will be action.  I will be CARPE DIEM!!!!

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  1. gisela
    January 23, 2013 at 1:30 am

    Hello, I met Sevan Demirtas in 1995 while working at a catering place named Bruno’s in Queens NY. I discovered the tragic news yesterday while navigating online. Can anyone contact me with other details about his last years alive?. I would like to know that this is not true and that Sevan didn’t pass away.
    He lived in Forest Hills NY.
    My e-mail is giselawst@aol.com

    Thanks – Gisela

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